Twinning With Taylor Swift (In The Worst Possible Way)

BY CHELSEA RICCHIO

Taylor Swift and I both broke up with our boyfriends recently.

You may be thinking, “Wait, you had a boyfriend?”

And I don’t blame you, because the relationship was so short that I didn’t have time to tell a whole lot of people about it.

I keep trying to write about my feelings on the situation so I can heal but for some reason the words just aren’t coming out. I think this is because there is one version of this story that I am comfortable talking about, the one in which I believe whatever I need to in order to feel okay about things – the one in which I believe whatever he says – but there is another version that I could barely even think about until now.

That’s the version in which I realize that I still do not have the full story, and the full story probably isn’t going to make me feel okay about anything. The full story is probably full of half truths and lies of omission and someone who doesn’t care even half as much as I thought he did (which was already only about half as much as I do). Continue reading

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Toronto Rave Culture and Rape Prevention

BY MINDFULAIDE

She sits across from me, nervous. Her blue hair covers part of her face, and she plays with her lip ring nervously. I order a couple of coffees from the waitress. This is Cheryl*, a slight girl with beautiful eyes and a colourful wardrobe. At sixteen, she finds all age parties to be the best place to go and have fun with her friends in the city on weekends. Cheryl is a raver.

We talk a little about what type of music she likes and which local events she’s looking forward to, but the nervousness doesn’t pass. It is because of the reason I’ve asked her to meet with me: to discuss what happened to her last year. Cheryl is also a survivor of rape.

“It’s not the scene,” she says. “Most people in the scene are really nice. I think a lot of the older people really remember what it was like for them and try to make events fun and safe. I was just not thinking…” she trails off, tears welling up in her eyes.

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My Top 22 Motivational Songs

By CHelsea ricchio

Listening to music is one of the best things that makes me feel better when I’m sad (which not too long ago was most of the time). I think that’s the case for a lot of people, but I’m finding that we rarely share music with one another these days.

When I was in high school, my best friends and I would send each other music and actually have conversations about it. We’d change our MSN screen names daily – sometimes hourly – to contain different lyrics that reflected our moods at the time. It’s a wonder that we didn’t know every single thing about each other. I had entire conversations with my boyfriend via song lyrics this way, or on Twitter in later years.

Now, I still have a habit of posting lyrics on Twitter, which probably annoys all of my followers. It’s my way of saying, “HEY! This is an awesome song that I’m really feeling right now! You should check it out!”

I’m getting better at expressing myself, but there are still many times when I feel like lyrics written by other people express exactly how I feel better than I can. Sometimes they’re sad songs that make me feel less alone, but I wanted to share my top motivational and empowering songs. 22 of them, one for each year of my life.

I’d love it if you shared yours with me too in the comments! 🙂

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